A Letter to the Dating Farm Girl

Dear farm girl,

For you dating sucks. You’re constantly caught between educating people (guys) how to do things and deciding whether to open your mouth at all. You’ve been told your standards are too high because you want someone who can help you fix fence (even if they have to learn) because let’s be real we don’t want to drive a t-post unless we have to. You want someone who will make late night trips hauling cattle and let you sleep in the passenger seat. Someone who says, “We will manage if I have to get another job” when the cattle market falls out. Someone who would go without sleep for 2 days because he had to work the night shift of that job he had to get but he wanted to be at his kids’ livestock show. Why? Because this is the man we grew up with and we called him dad.

We owe a lot to him for making us into the women we are today. He taught us how to be independent and take care of ourselves. Just like him, you’ll try to fix it yourself before you take it to someone else. But let me let you in on a piece of advice that I’ve learned over my few short years:

“For You formed my inward parts;

You covered me in my mother’s womb.

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made” Psalm 13-14a

Darling, just be you. God made you just like you are. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and the right man will see that. God will put him in front of you and he will be in complete awe of the woman God designed you to be. You may not be perfect, but you’ll be perfect for him. So, don’t settle for anything less than a Godly designed relationship. To the right man, you won’t be intimidating, he’ll laugh at your little hot head, and he’ll appreciate your dad for raising you like he did. To the right man you’ll be fearfully and wonderfully made.

We can’t forget to thank mom for making sure dad didn’t take over and we still turned out like a lady as well, but that’s an entirely different post!

Love,

Shiann

P.S. I write this as I am waiting for molasses to run on my 2 out of 3 batches of feed for the morning.