As a young dating adult I am slightly intimidated by the odds marriages have of surviving these days. I’ve never been one to shy away from a challenge but the thing with marriage is it takes two people with the same heart and desire to do whatever it takes to make things work. The majority of the research I’ve read claims that 50% of marriages are expected to end in divorce, something that has haunted me as I have begun to think about that part of my life.
I was fortunate enough to come from a home where my parents did everything they had to to make it work. They set a great example for my brother and I to look on. I realized at one point that I came from a family who would rather fix things than throw it away. For the people who know my family and I, I’m sure they would tend to agree by the amount of broken down equipment found around our place that hasn’t been fixed just yet.
Yes, I have my parents to thank for a wonderful upbringing but I’m frightened at the thought that someone else may not have the same mindset as me and my family; those kind of people are becoming harder and harder to find.
As I began adulthood my dad told me that everyone of my decisions from this point forward affects my future family and that remains in the back of my mind as I make life choices. For these reasons I have begun praying for my future marriage. I pray that God sends me someone who will put God #1 and his family #2. Someone who is the Christian leader of our household. I pray God sends me someone tough enough to take care of his family and the hurdles life throws at him, yet gentle enough to dry his daughter’s tears. A man who will show her how she should be treated and how his son should treat a woman by treating her mother with the utmost respect. But I am concerned for the people of my generation. I am concerned that they have grown too accustomed to thinking there’s always greener grass on the other side of the fence when problems arise. I’m concerned that they don’t know how to put others before themselves and I’m concerned that they don’t know how nor want to fix things when they’re broken. I’m concerned, that by my parents definition, the people of my generation do not know how to love.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I know that all things will work together for good of those that love God (Rom. 8:28) and so I believe that God will put that kind of man into my life but I encourage other young adults to begin praying for your future spouse. God molds and shapes us into the people he desires us to be by taking us through the valleys; pray that your future spouse makes it through those valleys. Pray that their heart is open to receive God’s corrective guidance and ultimately his abounding blessings by putting someone as wonderful as you in their life.