A Letter to the Struggling Loved One

To my struggling loved one,

For the first time in months when I looked at that picture of us I smiled. I didn’t feel hurt or pain. I simply smiled. That picture was the start of something wonderful, and glorious, but also something extremely painful. The last four months have been agonizing for me. Like my heart was yanked out of my chest. I wasn’t sure what else there was for God to teach me through hurts because I have been hurt so much in the last year. I have lost one thing after the other and honestly have faced some of the most terrible times in my life. I have fallen to the floor in uncontrollable sobs, cried myself to sleep, and called my mom and bestfriends crying more times than I would like to mention. This year my strength has been tested but I also watched my prayer life with God grow. I had forgotten that throughout life you are always learning; there will never be a time you are not learning. I made a prayer wall. I spent hours upon hours upon hours praying for you, my family, and friends. I start my day with a prayer. I sit in my office and type it out every morning because most of the time if I speak it, it just comes out jumbled. I not only learned to pray but I learned to listen to God too. I learned from times in the past where I thought I had heard God and was wrong and now as I listen I can hear him ever so clearly. He’s given me visions of the most beautiful things I have ever seen. God has revealed how He will bring some of my hearts deepest desire, desires He planted in my heart, to fruition. He is teaching me faith and patience as I wait for those visions to be fulfilled and to be blessed with the things he has promised me. Waiting isn’t easy. Matter of fact it is the hardest thing I have ever done. I trust God. My God is a BIG God, but sometimes I still cry. After all I am only human. But when I start praying and a sense of peace washes over me because I remember what I have heard. This hasn’t been easy for me. People say that if we trust God then we shouldn’t worry. I lay down my worries at his feet constantly. I have to do it over and over and over again but I also have to fight doubt with myself. I fight the doubt in myself that Satan has planted and continues to plant as other people question whether I heard God right. I’ve heard God wrong before, maybe I heard him wrong this time too? Then it goes away, because I have never been so certain about something in my life. I pray that you develop the same relationship with God as I have. I know you’re struggling right now too. I know that the reason you have hurt me is because you are struggling and “Hurt people, hurt people” – Levi Lusko. I have a very forgiving heart. I have already forgiven you. Can you forgive me for the times I have put you down when I became angry with you? I hate the animosity that has developed between us when we used to have so much fun together. I miss you. Just because I don’t talk to you doesn’t mean I don’t miss you. I just can’t get through to you anymore so I choose to do all my fighting through prayer. I lift you up in prayer daily. Do you pray for me? I hope you remember how much you are loved. I hope you remember that you deserve to be happy. I hope you find your way again. Most importantly, I hope you turn to God to lead you. You can always return to God. His arms are always open. He is waiting for you.

“But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet. And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry; for this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ And they began to be merry.” Luke 15: 22-24

Sincerely,

Someone who cares about you.

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Prodigal Resources

There is a prodigal that I have been vividly praying for. I wasn’t sure what to pray so I began looking for some resources. I found two really great articles and put together a list of prayers that I gathered from Kathie at The Character Corner page and B.J. Reinhard at the Encouragements From the Piper’s Wife page. I also did my own research and put together a list of awesome bible verses that will help you and your prodigal as you begin this journey of praying for them. I need visual things when I pray… I tape verses, prayers, etc. to my bathroom wall. I keep notecards with verses and prayers in my prayer journal so I can flip through them easily. Here is the list of verses and prayers BUT I also provided a download where you can print them off onto index cards! These new awesome printers these days have the awesome ability to change paper sizes to allow you to put little things like index cards in there! Give it a try! (I find it really helpful to put the cards on one of those nifty little book rings!)

Love,

Shiann

Verses:

1 Peter 5:8
Be alert and of a sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Galatians 6:1
Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

1 John 2:16
For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.

Matthew 6:13
And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen

Matthew 26:41
Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Luke 10:19
Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you.

Isaiah 58:6-9
“This not the fast that I have chosen: To loose the bonds of wickedness, To undo the heavy burdens, To let the oppressed go free,And that you break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, And that you bring to your house the poor who are cast out; When you see the naked, that you cover him, And not hide yourself from your own flesh? Then your light shall break forth like the morning, Your healing shall spring forth speedily, And your righteousness shall go before you; The glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard. Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer; You shall cry, and He will say, ‘Here I am.’

Isaiah 55:8-9
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways,
And My thoughts than your thoughts.

Hebrews 11:1
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Isaiah 50:10
Who among you fears the Lord
and obeys the word of his servant?
Let the one who walks in the dark,
who has no light,
trust in the name of the Lord
and rely on their God.

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.

Hebrews 12:11
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Psalm 31:2
Turn your ear to me,
come quickly to my rescue;
be my rock of refuge,
a strong fortress to save me.

Psalm 40:11
Do not withhold your mercy from me, Lord;
may your love and faithfulness always protect me.

Psalm 40:2
He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
and gave me a firm place to stand.

Galatians 6:9-10
“Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.  So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.”

Prayers:

  1. “Father, please allow their path to be filled with misery, frustration and irritation.” (Hosea 2:6a) This isn’t to be mean. We pray this because we love them. (Proverbs 19:11)
  2. “Father, please make them unable to clearly see what to do; please cause confusion.” (Hosea 2:6b)
  3. “Father, please keep them from finding the satisfaction for which they are searching.” (Hosea 2:7a)
  4. “Father, please allow her to see herself as You see her and create a desire to come back.(Hosea 2:7b) No prodigal will come back to God until they first come to themselves. This means that they recognize that they got themselves where they are, and it’s their responsibility to do what it takes to get out.
  5. “Father, please bring to their mind the good and allow them to forget the bad, pain, hurt, etc.” (Hosea 2:7c-8)
  6. “Lord, protect them.  Build a hedge around them to guard him physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  Block their paths so that he cannot move toward activities and relationships that would harm them.” (Job 1:10; Hos. 2:6-7)
  7. “Deliver them from evil.  Rescue them from a destructive lifestyle.  Restore them to their senses, bring them home from the land of the enemy.”  (Mt. 6:13; Ps. 91:14; Lk.15:17; Jer. 31:16-17)
  8. “Guide them into truth.  Teach them to recognize deceptive ideas and thoughts.  Make them alert to the lies of the enemy, and teach them how to resist the devil by faith.” (Jn. 16:13; 1 Cor. 2:16; 1 Pet. 5:8-9)
  9. “Give them the courage to be honest with their self and with You.  Spirit of God, convict them of sin and their need for You.  Don’t allow them to blame other for troubles in his life.  Show them that he alone is responsible for their choices.” (Jn. 16:8; Gen. 3:12-13; Ezk. 18:20)
  10. “Lord, thank You for drawing them with love and tenderness to Yourself, even in their desert place.  Show them that You are with them.  You delight in him them.  Amid the clamor for their attention and affections, may they hear Your voice calling to them and respond to Your deep, deep love.” (Jer. 31:3; Hos. 2:14; Zeph. 3:17)
  11. “Cause them to call out to You in their distress and confusion.  Cause them to seek You with abandon.  Thank You for promising to answer him.” (Ps. 91:15; Jer. 29:13)
  12. “Remove their heart of stone and replace it with a new, soft heart.  Make this heart into a bed of fertile soil so that the seed of truth sown into it will grow deep roots and bring forth a rich crop of life.” (Ezk.36:26-27; Mt.13:23; Col.2:6-7)
  13. “Lord Jesus, reveal to them that lasting refreshment and satisfaction can only be found in You.  In You they will find an abundant life.” (Jn.4:10, 10:10; Ps.1:3)
  14. “Lead them to friends who will graciously point them to You.  Cause them to be attracted to those who are attracted to You.  Scatter like chaff in the wind any friends who will bring them harm.  Give them the courage to please You, not man.” (Prov.13:20; Gal.1:10)
  15. “Produce in them a humble spirit that is yielded to You. Teach them how to live in You, and show them that apart from You they can do nothing.” (Jas.4:10; Ro.6:13; Jn.15:5)
  16. “Lord, reveal to them how valuable and significant their life is.  Give them a vision for their purpose in the world, and show them the possibilities for their future.  Through You, they can do all things.” (Is.43:7; Jer.29:11; Phil.4:13)
  17. “Help them to see that they don’t need to condemn themselves.  Show them that they can experience complete forgiveness through the work You’ve already finished on their behalf.  Give them the grace to repent of and let go of the past.” (Jn.19:30; Acts3:19; Is.43:18-19)
  18. “Thank You for offering hope and comfort to them.  Thank You for restoring the years the locusts have eaten and bestowing on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of despair.” (Is.57:18; Joel 2:25; Is.61:3)
  19. “Teach them that following You is not about following rules.  Show them that what You long for is a genuine relationship with them.” (Ro.6:14; Jer.9:24; Phil. 3:8,10)
  20. “Lord, cause them to grow up in You, maturing into an oak of righteousness for the display of Your splendor.  Help them to grow in wisdom and stature, and in favor with You and with man.” (Eph.4:15; Is.61:3; Lk.2:52)
  21. “Teach them to live in freedom, animated and motivated by Your Spirit and in step with Him.” (Gal.5:16,25)
  22. “Teach them to walk by faith.  Help them to see beyond their circumstances and trust You with every part of their life.” (2Cor.5:7; Heb.11:1; Prov.3:5-6)
  23. “Impress on them the need to protect their mind, guarding its purity through the choices they makes about what they looks at, listens to, and thinks about.” (Phil.4:8; 2Cor.10:5)

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Verses.

Prodigal Prayers

B.J.& Kathie’s Pages

http://thecharactercorner.com/5-things-to-pray-for-the-prodigal/

http://fromthepiperswife.blogspot.com/2011/12/prayers-for-prodigals-by-bj-reinhard-5.html